Toilet Training Without Tears

Tips to Help Potty Training Go Smoothly

By Elizabeth Pantley

Question: I am so frustrated! It seems like everybody's kids are toilet trained except mine. I've been trying to get him started, but no matter how hard I try, he doesn't seem to care. He's only interested in his potty-chair because the bucket makes a great helmet!

Think about it, when was the last time you saw a first grader wearing a diaper? No matter how much you want your child to be potty trained, it won't happen until he's ready. As a matter of fact, research was done on a group of twins. Of each set, one twin began toilet-training at 8 months of age. The other began training at 2 1/2. By age 2 3/4 they were both at the same skill level. So I ask you, why rush it?

Signs of readiness: Toilet training is easier if your child is physically and emotionally ready to begin. Look for these signs: A dry diaper for several hours; letting you know he has to go, or is going; being uncomfortable with a wet or messy diaper; the ability to put on and take off his own clothes; an interest in the potty and the desire to be trained. Once you see that your child is ready, put your child in charge. Potty training is one of the few areas over which he has complete control. If you demand that he toilet train on your schedule, you will likely create a major power struggle. A low-key, no pressure approach works best.

When you feel your child is physically and emotionally ready to be toilet trained, present the idea as an exciting opportunity to do something ver